Are you not sure if you like someone or think someone might like you, but aren’t sure? Here are the subconscious signs of attraction to look out for.
Odds are you know when you like someone, but before that happens there is a feeling of attraction. Sure, sometimes you know you feel it, but other times you are not sure because there are subconscious signs of attraction.
And then there are times when you want to figure out if someone else is attracted to you. And of course, you do not want to ask outright. How awkward would that be?
Looking for subconscious signs of attraction
When it comes to figuring out your attraction or someone else’s, there are involuntary things to look out for. This can be body language, behavior, or even something as minor as a look.
Noticing these subconscious signs of attraction is not as hard as you might think. These things happen every day without anyone noticing. All you have to do is know what you are looking for. [Read: 20 unmistakable signs your friend is crushing on you]
Subconscious signs of attraction
Are you ready to open your eyes a little more to see if someone is attracted to you? You may even realize you are attracted to someone without having ever realized.
Look out for these subconscious signs of attraction. You could be one step closer to a hot date this weekend.
#1 You spend time alone together. When you are attracted to someone, your body wants to be near them and subconsciously you want to be alone with them. If you met in a group but went off on your own to talk, you are probably somewhat interested in one another. [Read: 15 obvious flirting signs between a guy and a girl]
#2 You are close in proximity. When someone you are not attracted to stands too close to you, you lean away or take a step back. But, when you are attracted to someone, you like being close to them.
Maybe you sit next to them, lean in to talk, or even whisper in each other’s ear.
#3 You ask questions. Curiosity is a common sign of attraction. Attraction is the first sign of a crush or even eventually liking someone. So it makes sense that attraction would make you want to know more about someone.
When you want to know more about someone and they want to know more about you, there is a good chance there is an attraction there. [Read: All-around good questions to ask and forge a better connection]
#4 Eye contact. Avoiding eye contact is what you do when you are uncomfortable. But when you like someone, you look into their eyes when you’re talking. You may even make eye contact across a crowded room.
#5 You mirror body language. This is something you really have to look for, but it is a major sign of attraction according to body language experts. If you are sitting with your legs crossed and your elbows on the table, someone that is attracted to you will mirror that stance.
#6 Your feet point towards each other. I know, this seems silly, but it is a subconscious sign of attraction. Naturally, if you are standing facing someone your feet would point toward each other, but when you are sitting, standing at an angle, or even just grabbing someone’s attention they will turn their feet towards you with their body is attracted to you. [Read: How to tell if there is serious chemistry between two people]
#7 Staring. Not in a creepy way, but looking at someone for even three seconds can be a sign of attraction. Ever notice someone just looking at you in the office or at a bar? They are likely attracted to you.
#8 Honesty. When you are attracted to someone, you want to share things with them. When you share something personal with someone sooner than you normally would, it may be because you are attracted to them.
#9 Blush. That rosiness you get in your cheeks when someone attractive makes eye contact with you is not just a thing that happens. It is your body’s way of saying this person’s presence is making an impact on you. [Read: How to impress your crush and effortlessly steal their heart]
#10 Fidgeting. Fidgeting is a sign of nerves. Even if you don’t realize you are nervous, you may fidget around someone you are attracted to. You may twirl your hair, play with your zipper, or play with a pen you have in your pocket. Keeping your hands busy distracts you from the nerves of being attracted to someone.
#11 Smiling. You smile at your neighbor and your secretary, but when you have a longer conversation with someone, your smile fades. On the contrary, when you are talking with someone you are attracted to your smile lingers.
#12 Touching. Some people are just touchy-feely, but usually not with someone they just met. If someone rubs your arm or touches your lower back while walking together that is a major subconscious sign of attraction. [Read: How people flirt by touch without realizing it themselves]
#13 Attention. In this modern world, it is so easy to be distracted. When you are attracted to someone, they hold your attention. You are less likely to turn your head towards a door opening or someone calling your name when you are with someone you are attracted to. [Read: How to know if you really like someone: Hidden feelings revealed]
#14 Protection. It may seem a bit premature, but when you are attracted to someone, your body sees them as a potential mate. That means you don’t want anything to harm them. Of course, you don’t want anyone to be harmed, but when you are with someone you are attracted to, you are more aware of them.
If you are walking down the street, you may walk closer to traffic, gently pull them away from a subway grate, or even be worried if they tell you they ride a motorcycle.
#15 Extending a chat. Saying goodbye at the end of the day or even the end of a brief conversation is more difficult when you are attracted to someone. You may have the intention to leave at a certain time but you don’t even notice the clock. [Read: 15 weird, unlikely signs to know if you’re starting to like someone]
#16 Looking for each other. You may not even realize you are attracted to someone at work. If they are not in one day, you will notice yourself looking for them. And vice versa. If you are out for a day or two, your coworker may tell you that someone who is attracted to you was wondering where you were.
#17 Thinking about them when they aren’t around. This is a surefire sign of attraction. Maybe even more than that. When you are not even around this person and didn’t just look at their social media but you randomly think about them, there are some sort of feelings there.
#18 Dreams. Having a dream about someone is not just subconscious but also unconscious. Of course, dreams are fake. I am sure you have had a dream about someone you don’t even know or care for, but if you notice someone popping up in your dreams repeatedly, it could be due to an attraction. [Read: What does it mean when you dream about your crush]
#19 Hair touching. Looking your best is something we all do when we find someone attractive. You may fix your hair, they may adjust their shirt, you may apply lipstick, and they might glance in a mirror to make sure they look alright.
When you are with someone you are not attracted to, worrying about how you look is not as much of a priority. [Read: 17 clear signs you should be dating your friend already]
#20 Unsettled stomach. My least favorite subconscious sign of attraction is this one. Butterflies, nervous stomach, nausea. This bubbly feeling in your stomach arises when you are around someone you are attracted to. It can even happen before you are about to see them.
Remember attraction is only one part of a romantic connection. So even though these are the subconscious signs of attraction to look out for, there should be more of a connection before taking the next step.