How to Make a Man Feel Loved: Cut the Drama, Real Love Is Simple

We’ve all watched The Notebook or Love Actually, and maybe that’s the problem. Knowing how to make a man feel loved doesn’t have to be so dramatic.

This is the problem, people. We’ve been sucked into thinking that the only way to know how to make a man feel loved is if we buy them a brand new car or sit outside of their house with a boombox, playing some 80’s love song that’ll for sure piss off all the neighbors.

Now, I’m not saying this won’t show them that you love them, but this isn’t the only way. I mean, real life isn’t like this which is somewhat saddening, I guess. That is, if you needed a new car.

How to make a man feel loved

Of course, you want to make your man feel loved and wanted. And for sure, you’ll be able to do that regardless of how much money you have. This is where people get mixed up and when some relationships don’t work out. It’s not that you don’t love that person but you weren’t showing them love. But don’t worry, I got you. We’re going to go through some ways on how to make a man feel loved.

#1 Actually get to know him. Sometimes we end up getting so wrapped up in our own lives that we forget about our partner. Of course, we don’t actually forget them, but we forget to take the time to learn new things about them.

I know you know how he likes his eggs in the morning, but maybe that changed. Ask him questions and connect, wanting to get to know him more. [Read: 25 ways to make a guy feel appreciated and cared for]

#2 Ask for his opinion. I mean, why else would we have a partner if you’re not going to ask him what he thinks about whatever topic? The whole point of a partnership is to be partners, to be an actual team. When someone wants to hear your opinion, it makes you feel wanted. Even if you know the solution, asking him for help doesn’t hurt. [Read: 100 signs you’re lucky in love]

#3 Treat him. We get caught up in wanting to be treated with gifts, spa treatments, or new shoes. But what about your man? Have you ever surprised him by taking him to his favorite restaurant? Or buying him tickets to his favorite sporting event? Though he may do an amazing job of treating you, don’t forget that it’s a two-way street.

#4 Make your space with him safe. You want him to be able to vent out his frustrations to you. It’s normal, you know, when you’re upset, you talk to him because he’s your support system. So, it goes the same way for him. Don’t be judgmental or quick to attack his emotions. If you want to know how to make a man feel loved, allow him the space to open up to you. [Read: How to be a better listener in your relationship]

#5 Tell/show him your appreciation. Like I said before, this relationship is a two-way street. If he’s been amazing lately and really helping you out, show him or tell him how much you appreciate what he’s doing for you. Of course, he’s doing these things because he loves you, so he’s not expecting anything in return. But that doesn’t mean you can’t thank him.

#6 Be affectionate. I know you’re thinking, well, duh, but this is something easily bypassed. Small acts of affection such as kissing him on the cheek, rubbing the back of his neck, or holding his hand can have a huge impact on the relationship. It makes him feel wanted by you.

#7 Don’t forget about sex. Yeah, sorry, but sex is important in any relationship. If you want him to feel connected to you, take the time to actually have sex. I know work makes you tired and if you have children, that’s a whole other story. But to keep the connection and have him feeling loved, sex is crucial. [Read: 18 naughty ways to make time for sex in a busy schedule]

#8 Give him space. Now, you may be confused. I should give him space? Yes! Everyone needs some time on their own. Suffocating him will show him your love but it’s a little too much. Let him have time on his own to hang out with his friends or watch a football game. Give him his time to relax and in that time, go do something for yourself.

#9 Give him a compliment. Literally, everyone loves to receive compliments. Maybe he looks really good today or smells amazing, of course, you see that but did you tell him? We think that men are secure but they’re just like women, they have insecurities as well. So, when you think something positive about him, tell him. [Read: 25 compliments for men they’ll never ever forget]

#10 Detach yourself from your phone. Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat–these are all highly addictive, I get it. But, when you’re busy on your phone, you’re not communicating with your partner, and this is the problem. When you spend time with him, leave your phone and give him that time only with you. Don’t let a screen come in the way of love. [Read: The happy couple’s guide to social media etiquette]

#11 If you get something for yourself, get him something. Okay, this doesn’t have to be for everything, but if you ran to the cafe to grab a coffee, just grab him one as well. You don’t have to ask him, just do it. It makes him feel cared for, and it’s a considerate thing to do.

#12 Pay. I know, ladies. Some of you have it pretty good with your man. He pays for almost everything, but that’s not what a relationship is about. Of course, everyone likes it when someone else pays for them, but give a little as well. Next time you’re out, pay the tab, he’s not going to hate it. In fact, it shows him your appreciation.

#13 Look at him. People forget the importance of eye contact. Okay, you don’t have to go all hippy and do some eye-gazing practices with him, but you hold eye contact and smile. Be playful and flirtatious. He’ll love it, I mean, he’s with you for a reason, so, these small acts can only make him feel more butterflies. [Read: How to use prolonged eye contact while flirting with your man]

#14 Show him that he’s a priority. It’s normal to get overwhelmed with work, school, family, and friends. However, try your best to show him that he is a priority in your life. The best way to do this is by giving him your time. Of course, don’t sabotage your other priorities, but learn how to create a balance.

[Read: 15 sweet gestures to express love without words]

Now that you know how to make a man feel loved, it’s time you tried out some of these tips. Come on, let’s get this going!