Your eyes are always all over your crush, but they don’t know your name. It’s about time that changed, right? Learn how to get your crush’s attention.
Having a crush can be a lot of fun! Of course, it comes with a hint of drama, but that’s what crushes are for. They take you on this roller coaster of emotions. But if you’re ready to move from crush to something else, it’s time to learn how to get your crush’s attention.
In high school and university, I was always crushing on the popular guy. It didn’t work out too well for me. I was a complete tomboy, but I would spend my days and nights thinking about them *stalking them on social media, guilty as charged*, and daydreaming about the moment they’d come and confess their love for me. That day never came, but that doesn’t mean it can’t play out that way for you. [Read: The smart and safe way to tell your crush you like them]
How to get your crush’s attention
If I had someone to take advice from, I probably would have done a lot better back in the day. That’s why I’m here. You don’t need to follow in my footsteps. Instead, allow me to show you what you need to do to grab your crush’s notice. It’s not as hard as you think, but it will require you to put in some work.
What’s important is that you don’t change who you are in the process. You are you, always remember that. You can change the superficial things, but don’t try to change who you are to please your crush because it won’t last even if you do get their attention. So, use these tips to learn how to get your crush’s attention, but not at your own expense. [Read: How to look fabulous when trying to get someone’s attention]
#1 Use your personality. All of us have personalities that are different from one another. Now, you may be thinking that this is bad, but that’s silly. This is your biggest advantage. Your personality is rich with humor, thoughts, and opinions. Use this to flirt with them and turn them on. [Read: How to flirt with your friend without it becoming weird]
#2 Look at them! If you’ve never spoken a word to them, start with eye contact. It’s harmless, and it can be super flirty. If they’re into you, it’s a hint that you’re into them too. Now, you don’t need to stare them down, but look at them when you pass by. If you’re talking to their friends when your crush is around, make sure to look at them. [Read: 10 subtle eye contact flirting moves that always work]
#3 Befriend their friends. This is an old trick, but it can be very effective. You want to get their attention, right? So, if you’re a little nervous, start by befriending their circle of friends.
This way, they’ll slowly start to hear your name and pay more attention to you. You’ll get invited to some mutual events, and by doing this, you slowly bring yourself and your crush closer together.
#4 Keep your distance. They’re your crush, obviously, you’re going to want to be around them all of the time, but this isn’t what you need to do. Instead, keep a little distance. Everyone knows when someone likes them, and if you’re around too much, it becomes more annoying than anything. Plus, they see you as someone who likes them. You need to be the one they’re into. [Read: 13 friend zone hacks that’ll make your friend like you and miss you]
#5 Work on your confidence. If you’re not confident in yourself, your crush won’t take notice of you. You need to show yourself as someone with high self-worth and respect. If they see that, they’ll be intrigued. If you can, try to go up to your crush and introduce yourself.
#6 Crack jokes. The best way to create a bond is through laughter. That’s right. If you have a good sense of humor, use it! You’d be a fool not too. You can crack small jokes here and make them laugh. By doing this, they’ll want to be around you more.
#7 Watch out for the friend-zone. Ah yes, the friend-zone. I know very well about that zone from both sides. Now, it’s entirely possible to be friends and then lovers, but you don’t want to be spending too much time in the friend-zone. It’s important you find a balance and eventually make your intentions known. [Read: These actions will help you escape the friend-zone]
#8 Use your smile. It’s easy for people to fall in love with a smile. How can you not love other people smiling? It’s sexy, it’s sweet, it’s positive. All the things people want in their lives. If you run into your crush, give them a hello smile. You want to look like someone they can approach and talk to.
#9 Don’t push for conversation. It’s easy to become that one person who’s obviously trying to get their crush’s attention. If they text you, don’t try to prolong the conversation for hours and hours. Let it naturally fade. Relationships don’t start from one person obsessing over the other.
#10 Be direct with your crush. When you have a crush, it isn’t easy to speak your mind. We usually just stutter and blush whenever they’re around. You don’t need to declare your love for them, but you should, at least with your body, show your interest. Sit near your crush, touch their arm when they crack a joke. These small things work wonders.
#11 Have a little mystery. I’m not mysterious, so this one is hard for me. But when it comes to knowing how to get your crush’s attention, if you can show some mystery to your crush, do it. You don’t want to give everything away, let them become curious. This is how you turn your crush into something more. They need to want to get to know you. [Read: 25 ways to master the art of seduction and ooze sex appeal]
#12 Have a mini-makeover. Not only will this boost your confidence, but it may grab the attention of your crush. If you want to switch up your hairstyle or try a new lipstick, you should totally do it. Why not? If you feel good and your crush notices you, it’s a win-win.
#13 Wear something red. This can be a red shirt or red makeup. The point is, it’s red. If you’re wondering why you need to wear red, that’s because red automatically draws the eye to you. Plus, it’s also a sexually arousing color. Say whaaaat.
#14 Practice. You’re going to have to practice getting your crush’s attention. You may not nail the first conversation with them. Maybe you were nervous, but eventually, it’ll get easier to talk to your crush. What’s important is that you don’t let that get in your way. Just keep on practicing. [Read: How to stop being shy around your crush and get their attention]
#15 Be yourself. If you want your crush to be into you for the right reasons, be yourself. Sure, you can cut your hair, and buy new clothes, totally fine. But, never, and I really mean this, never change yourself for your crush. If you’re not into smoking, for example, don’t start smoking because your crush smokes. Be you. If they don’t like it, find a new crush.
Not everyone is going to come to you. Sometimes, you have to put in some effort. Some elbow grease is part of what it takes when learning how to get your crush’s attention.