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If you’re looking for a rebound girl, you have to pick carefully. The last thing you want is a girl proclaiming her love for you after a single romp.
Rebounds can be helpful in a number of different ways. They provide a fun time while also helping you forget about an ex that may have broken your heart. Many people even use the term “palate cleanser.” And if you want to find the right rebound girl for this job, you have to be careful.
Not all girls are great at doing casual flings – which is what a rebound is. It’s a very informal type of relationship that doesn’t require any strings. But since girls are more prone to getting attached, finding the wrong girl for the job can make things messy down the road.
You have to find certain qualities in someone if you want them to be a rebound
It’s easy to look for the type of girl you’d like to date when trying to find a rebound. However, that’s not really necessary. You actually don’t want that type of girl because you could end up in a relationship. And if you’re not ready for that, it’s bad news.
You have to find a rebound girl who’s unlike the type you’d want to date long-term. She can still be cool and share interests with you, but if you’re looking to bring her home after a single night together, you should get out fast. [Read: Rebound relationships and how they can be good for you]
How to find the right rebound girl for the job
If you still want a rebound because you’re still salty over your ex, make sure you choose the right one. There’s nothing that ruins a nice rebound like a girl who gets overly attached and is needy AF. Here’s what you should be looking for.
#1 Not your type. Don’t go for the type of girl you’d actually want to date. That’ll only set you up to fall for her and that’s not what you want when you’re getting over someone.
She can be cool and interesting, but don’t pick someone you’d normally go for to date. It’s not fair to her if she ends up liking you back. You need some time to get over your current situation with someone you’d never truly be with before going for someone else.
#2 Someone who doesn’t want something serious. You’re not looking for anything serious, so why should you find someone who is? It’ll only end up in a disaster if you go for someone who really wants to date you.
You’d be lying to her and she also wouldn’t serve the purpose of a rebound if she’s looking to settle down. She’d be far too much for you to handle at this point. [Read: 10 casual relationship rules to keep things simple]
#3 A girl who doesn’t text back very well. This is perfect for you. Girls who don’t respond to texts that well don’t have a real interest in you. Meaning, she’s perfect for a rebound girl. You won’t have to worry about feelings getting in the way of your romps.
#4 A girl who doesn’t seem to like you all that much. This is in a romantic sense. She really doesn’t show any signs of wanting to date you. However, she does show an interest in having something fun with you. So long as you’re both aware that fun is all this is, it’s perfect for what you need. [Read: 12 telltale signs she’s just not that into you]
#5 She doesn’t mind your lack of interest. A lot of girls have issues with guys not being fully invested in them. You don’t need a girl like that. Not for a rebound, anyway. If she cares too much, she’ll be needy and clingy and upset when you just don’t respond to her messages. Avoid this type of rebound girl.
#6 A girl who’s fun. Your goal is to forget your ex, right? Then you need someone who makes that happen. A really fun girl is definitely the way to go here.
Someone who’s up for anything and always wants to have a good time will make sure your mind is occupied of anything but the ex you’re trying to forget. It’s perfect.
#7 She lets you know what’s up. You want a rebound girl with a backbone. That’s really all it is. If you’re being annoying, she’ll say so. If she doesn’t want to hang out, she’ll let you know. And on the flip side, she’ll be open and honest about how she’s feeling, which can help when it comes to cutting things off if it gets to be too much. [Read: The pros and cons of being with a woman in control]
#8 She wants the same thing. You can’t just be with a girl who wants a relationship when you want a rebound. Wanting the same thing – a rebound or a casual fling – is required. You just got out of a messy situation with your ex. Do you really want another one by going for a girl who isn’t down for casual affairs?
#9 She knows your situation. One of the best types of girls are the ones who know what you’re going through. It’s perfectly fine to admit you want a rebound. So long as she’s aware that’s what she is to you and she still agrees, you’re in the clear.
Even better, she might make it a bit easier to forget your ex by going the extra mile to get it done. She’ll work extra hard for you if she knows you just want to forget her. [Read: 9 brilliant tips for having a casual relationship]
#10 A girl who doesn’t call or text all that often. You never want clingy. You’re in this to have fun with a cute girl who’ll make you forget about that nasty breakup. However, you don’t really want someone who’s up your ass all the time. That’ll be annoying and could even bring up memories of your ex.
#11 A girl with her own life. Never go for the type of girl who will drop everything to be around when you need her. Those types of girls have “NEEDY” written all over their faces. When she doesn’t have her own life, she’ll try to be in yours all the time. You really don’t need that at this point in your life. [Read: 30 signs of a low maintenance girl to keep a look out for]
#12 She’s willing to end things abruptly if you are. Rebounds don’t really have a time limit. You can be with them for a few weeks up to a few months. What you want is the type of girl who is willing to call it quits, no questions asked, at any moment. She won’t be hurt by your abrupt ending and your relationship together will remain what it was – a rebound.[Read: Rebound relationship rules to follow for a slam dunk]
The key to finding the right rebound girl is all about choosing the one who wants what you do. Keep it casual, simple, and don’t allow any strings to be attached.