Are You Being Ignored after Sex? The Truth Behind Ghosting After Sex

You slept with someone. Now, they’re ghosting you. Ouch. But rather than feeling sorry for yourself, it’s time to look at why you’re ignored after sex.

I know what it feels like to be ignored after sex. Not only is your ego completely crushed, but you just don’t understand why someone would do that to you. Okay, they didn’t need to propose marriage but the least they could have done was tell you they’re no longer interested. I mean, it still stings but at least you have some closure. But alas, they don’t even do that.

So, why is it that you were ignored after sex? Okay, I don’t know them personally, so their reason may be completely different, but usually, you’re ignored after sex for a few main reasons. [Read: Why do you crave them more when you feel ignored?]

The real reasons why you’re ignored after sex

People refrain from getting themselves into relationships because they’re “complicated.” Listen, it doesn’t matter whether it’s a fling or a long-term relationship. The minute you add sex into the equation, it changes the entire thing.

You meet someone, you connect, you sleep with them. Suddenly, they’re nowhere to be found. What’s up with that? On top of all of that, you spend hours thinking about what you did to make you ignored after sex. It’s time to get down to the real truth.

#1 They only wanted sex. Now, this is completely cool if you talked about this prior to sex. That way, you know that sex was only what they wanted. While ignoring isn’t nice, you have it figured out.

If you didn’t ask what they were looking for prior to having sex, well, then you allowed yourself to be vulnerable to this type of behavior. What are they looking for? Casual sex? Getting to know you? A relationship? What?! [Read: 10 booty call moves that may be disguised as true love]

#2 You don’t know what you want. At the end of the day, people can tell when someone doesn’t know what they want. They may have slept with you and then realized that you’re looking for something more serious or more casual that doesn’t fall in their needs.

Because you didn’t state your needs, they may have assumed that you aren’t on the same page. So, instead of talking to you, they ignored you. [Read: How to quell the rage when you’ve been ghosted after the first date]

#3 They didn’t want anything serious. Now, I don’t want to assume, but I have a feeling that you slept with this person before making a commitment to each other. I’m not judging, we’ve all slept with people before even talking about what we want in relationships.

They didn’t want anything serious which is why they ignored you after sex. Depending on gender, men are able to have sex without feeling emotional, while women biologically have an emotional experience when having sex.

#4 It wasn’t “it.” Though everyone has sex, sexual experiences differ from person to person. For example, you may have amazing sex with one person while the next person you sleep with, the sex will be completely different. We’re not designed to have amazing sex with everyone we encounter. We all have different bodies. Each vagina and penis is different and not all of them will fit together.

#5 They freaked out. Listen, the sex was amazing, for you and your partner. It blew each other’s mind. But sex can be funny. You both had an amazing experience, but your partner is freaking out. They think about the future and what they should do which results in them freaking out and ignoring you.

In other words, they’re scared of commitment. Now, did they have to ignore you? No, but that just shows they’re immature. [Read: What is ghosting and how does it affect you?]

#6 You’re getting attached. Yeah, I know it sounds stupid. How can people not be emotionally attached after a great sexual experience? And for them, they simply wanted sex which is great but that’s not how sex works. After sex, you texted them more or asked to hang out. They took this as a warning sign of you being attached. So, they ran instead.

#7 They have a boyfriend/girlfriend. Ah yes. Sorry, but they’re already taken. Yeah, I know, they’re dicks, but for them, you were just someone to have a good time with. Then they go back to their normal life. They had no intention of continuing the relationship. They got what they wanted, and now they don’t need you.

#8 They’re waiting for you to play their game. Maybe after sex, you texted them once, but then you saw that they weren’t really replying or only replying when they wanted. In other words, they wrapped you around their finger and used you for sex whenever they wanted.

But, you didn’t quite fall into that trap and now you don’t contact them period. But you’re not really being ignored, rather, they’re waiting for you to come running to them.

#9 They don’t actually like you. I know this sounds horrible. At the moment, they just wanted to stick it in. They didn’t really care who you are or your interest, they simply had one thing on their mind and that was to get laid. Now, you may have taken this a little more seriously, but they’re not even ignoring you. They simply don’t care. [Read: The signs they only want to use you for sex]

#10 You’re clingy. How can I say this nicely? The twenty texts you sent them the day after sleeping with them, well… they didn’t take that as something cute or sweet. If anything, they categorized you as a stage five clinger. Now, they’re doing whatever they can to get rid of you.

You came on too strong for them. They feel suffocated. Rather than telling you this, they ignored you because it’s easier for them.

[Read: How to stop feeling ignored by the one you love *they don’t care, you should do the same*]

Now that you know what the real reasons you’re ignore after sex, there’s no point in developing all these theories in your head and freaking out.