A Guide Directly From a Woman

Want to know how to seduce women with words? You’re in the right place. Here’s how to woo her with only your words and leave her breathless.

Women aren’t as visual as men. Where men need something to look at, women need something to imagine. We like words that give us all those naughty feelings. That’s why we tend to like romance novels so much. If you want to know how to seduce women with words, you’ll have to learn the right words to use.

Because you can’t just walk up to us and talk dirty. It’s not the same thing. We’d rather you never come up to us and start telling us how much you want us. That’s terrifying, not sexy. There’s a craft to the way you have to use your words to seduce us.

Not all women will like the same things

Something to keep in mind when trying to seduce women is that we don’t all like the same things. One phrase that might be sexy to one woman won’t do anything to another. You really have to get to know the woman first.

Knowing how to seduce women with words is all about being able to bring that woman’s fantasies to life in her mind. And in order to do that, you’ll have to know what she likes most. [Read: 15 things women look for in a man before falling in love]

How to seduce women with words

This won’t be an easy thing to learn. You’ll have to work hard to get it down and have it sound natural. But if you figure it out, you’ll be thankful. Here’s how to seduce women with words and woo her in ways you never thought you could.

#1 Keep your voice low. Don’t be loud and obnoxious here. You don’t need to shout to the entire bar that you think she’s beautiful. This will probably just embarrass her more than it would flatter her.

Instead, keep your voice low, as if you don’t want anyone else to hear. This creates an intimate atmosphere. She’ll have to lean in closer and your words will mean more if she feels as though they’re spoken like a secret between the two of you.

#2 Lean in close but don’t touch. Again, this is all about the atmosphere. It’s not so much the exact words you say but rather, how you say them. Lean in close and keep that voice low. Don’t touch her, though. Just get close enough to be a little more intimate than just talking with a friend.

Then lean over and say what you have to say. This not only makes her feel special because you’ve moved in very close, but it also makes your words seem like they’re meant for only her, which is sexy as hell. [Read: 10 clearly noticeable signs of body language attraction]

#3 Get to know her deeply. You have to know a woman a little better than you might think in order to seduce her with just your words. That’s because you need to know what she likes. What does she find sexy? What makes her excited? Knowing these things will help you tailor what you say so she’ll be turned on.

#4 Ask suggestive questions. However, don’t make them very obviously suggestive. The point with this is to steer her mind in a naughty direction without her realizing it. She might still figure it out, but still.

Asking things like, “And what do you prefer to do in your free time?” in a sultry tone will give her the hint. Be careful with this method, though, because it can make you seem like you’re just trying to get laid. Being obvious about your intentions ruins it. [Read: How to get a girl horny and wet just by sitting next to her]

#5 Don’t talk about her appearance. It might seem very difficult to try and seduce a woman without mentioning how great she looks, but you can. And in fact, it’ll be more effective if you avoid talking her appearance.

Instead, talk about her personality. Tell her she’s really funny. You can also just tell her she’s smart and then ask her about her thoughts on a controversial topic. This might not seem very seductive, but never underestimate the power of complimenting a woman’s mind.

#6 Tell her you like the way she thinks. Speaking of complimenting a woman’s mind, this is by far the best thing you can say. It’s very simple. After you get done discussing something, lean in and tell her you like the way she thinks. It might not seem like much but believe me, this is a very powerful phrase. [Read: How to compliment a girl and make her blush]

#7 Tell her you bet she can get feisty. Girls really like to feel naughty. We might not like to go about flaunting that side of ourselves, but we do like to feel on the naughty side. Therefore, if you talk about something she gets passionate about, tell her you bet she can get pretty feisty.

It’s a great way to admire her passionate side while also making her feel a little dirty. If you say this in a flirty way, you’ll have her to yourself in no time. [Read: 30 sassy traits that make a girl feisty and amazing]

#8 Be funny! Obviously, you want to be careful not to be offensive here. What you might find funny may not be funny to her at all. However, you can seduce her with your sense of humor.

Again, this works best if you know the woman well and know the things she finds funny. You can then use that knowledge to make some jokes that can also be on the naughty side if you’re careful.

#9 Be encouraging and supportive of her wishes. If you two end up talking about her life goals and dreams, be supportive. Tell her you can definitely see her accomplishing those things. Tell her she seems like the dedicated, hardworking type.

Even if she’s not, she’ll love hearing that you think she is. This is another way of complimenting something that’s not her looks. Those types of compliments always mean more and seduce women more than you might think. [Read: 10 signs of a truly supportive and encouraging partner]

#10 Backhanded compliments go a long way. These are compliments she won’t really know are compliments right away. While she’s talking, you could ask her to repeat something because you were just distracted. Make sure you’ve been looking at her this whole time.

You can even say something along the lines of, “I’m sorry, my thoughts were elsewhere. What did you say?” She might not realize what you mean right away but she’ll pick up on the hints if you add some flirting to your line.

[Read: 11 moves to seduce a woman and get her in bed with you]

Knowing how to seduce women with words has everything to do with how well you know that woman. What does she like? Once you figure her out, you can easily craft just the right words to hook her.