How to Tell If She’s Playing Mind Games & Doesn’t Care About You

One day she’s all over you; the next day, she looks at you as if you don’t exist. What’s up with that? Here’s how to tell if she’s playing mind games.

Though playing games isn’t respectful or appreciated, many people end up doing it. If you’re wondering how to tell if she’s playing mind games with you, it’s actually easier than you think to read her intentions.

I’ve talked to some guys who would tell me they love playing mind games because it’s an ego boost, or they want to keep a girl interested while they try to get other chicks. Then, I’ve also had female friends who played games for the same reasons.

When it comes to playing games, both men and women are guilty of doing it. And these games, though it may seem fun for the person in control, is extremely harmful. These mind games have the ability to damage people who are looking for love and connection emotionally. [Read: How to stop playing relationship games and start loving instead]

But you don’t need to get sucked into the game. If you’re interested in a woman and you’re noticing that something isn’t right, it’s time to put a stop to it. You don’t deserve to get dragged down by someone else’s ego and insecurities.

And, I know, when you’re into someone, it’s hard to pull away, but listen, you need to move on. So if you’re wondering how to tell if she’s playing mind games with you, take a look at these signs. If she is, then you know what you need to do. No one deserves to get played, and you’re going to leave before it gets worse.

How to tell if she’s playing mind games

Better late than never. [Read: What a guy needs to do when a girl plays hard to get]

#1 You feel something isn’t right. You have intuition, don’t assume it’s a quality only women have. We’re animals, after all. When you’re with her, you feel something isn’t right. And that’s something you need to pay attention to. When your gut is sending you warning signs, take those feelings, and examine them. What’s giving you that vibe?

#2 It’s hot and cold. You never know what you’re going to get with her, and that’s partially why you’re attracted to her. One minute she’s hot, the next minute she’s cold. This is a classic mind game that sucks us in easily. But, this isn’t something you want to explore. She’s trying to control and play with your emotions by acting hot and cold. [Read: Blowing hot and cold and the 3 stages girls use to hook you]

#3 She ignores your texts. We all get busy, but when we like someone, we take a minute to send them a text. If she’s taking hours to text you back or ignores your texts completely, this is a sign she’s playing you. And if she behaves like this, she isn’t worth your time. Move on to someone who is interested in you.

#4 She flirts with other people in front of you. When you two are at a bar or club, she doesn’t waste any time flirting with other people. Aside from it being degrading towards you, it also shows her immaturity. She’s trying to get you jealous and shows that you’re just a toy for her. [Read: How to read a girl’s mixed signals and interpret them]

#5 You make all the first moves. She never texts you first or asks you to hang out; everything is dumped on you. Some women believe the man should always make the first move at first, but at some point, it needs to become mutual. If you’re the only one investing in the relationship, you need to ask yourself whether she wants to be with you or not.

#6 She bails on you. If you’re wondering how to tell if she’s playing mind games with you, ask yourself how reliable she is, is she trustworthy or is she an unpredictable flake? You two have decided on going to a movie or for dinner, but at the last minute, she decides to cancel plans and bail on you.

Of course, she has a lame excuse, maybe her dog is sick, or she suddenly came down with a cold; either way, you know it’s full of crap. Bailing once isn’t something to be concerned about, but if she frequently does this, she’s playing you. [Read: 15 signs she’s leading you on and taking you nowhere]

#7 Guys are all over her social media. Every picture she posts has hundreds of likes and comments only from men. Of course, this begs the question, are you just one of those guys? Of course, this doesn’t mean she’s having sex with all of them, but in your mind, you’re thinking, who are all these guys?

#8 She acts like she doesn’t care. Well, this is an easy one; it’s because she doesn’t care. When you’re around her, she’s indifferent, making you work even harder for her attention. But that’s all a part of the game. While you’re chasing her around, trying to please her, she’s getting exactly what she wants. [Read: How to recognize a girl who’s an attention whore – 13 signs to know for sure]

#9 She’s just mean. How can I say this nicely, she acts incredibly rude towards you, and you take it. You accept her attitude and behavior because you like her, but in reality, she’s just pushing you to the edge because she can. If she was into you, she wouldn’t be acting like this. But because she’s not really into you, she’s walking all over you.

#10 You two aren’t intimate. Listen, some women don’t want to be intimate until a specific time, and that’s fine and should be respected. But if you two have been seeing each other for some time, and you’re not even getting a hug, something is up. When two people are into each other, at some point, they’re affectionate and intimate. If you’re unsure about this, it’s best to talk to her about it. [Read: 15 types of bad girlfriends who’ll make your life hell]

#11 She’s sweet when she needs something. And that’s the only time she’s sweet towards you. She’ll have no problem calling or texting you when she needs you to do something for her. And once you do what she wants, she’ll distract you with your reward and then go back to her old ways. Of course, you keep going back for more.

#12 You’re just a “friend.” When she introduces you to people, you’re her “friend.” But when it’s just you two hanging out, it’s not very friend-like at all. If she introduces you as a friend and has given you the “friend” talk, then she’s not interested in you as anything more. But she doesn’t mind having you think there’s something more going on.

#13 You two don’t have any photos together. If she was truly into you, you’d be all over her social media. She would want people to see she’s with you. But you don’t exist on her social media. Whether it’s Facebook or Instagram, there aren’t any photos of you two, and if there is, she makes it clear you’re her friend and nothing more.

After reading these signs on how to tell if she’s playing mind games with you, what do you think? Is she messing with your mind and using you? Well, if she is, it’s time to walk away before you feel miserable. Or worse, before you’re discarded by her, which she eventually will.