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If you’re a sex newbie, you may be in the dark on the best sex positions for beginners. Well, it’s time you learned, and I’m here to enlighten you.
I wish someone was there to guide me when I lost my virginity. Someone to tell me the best sex positions for beginners and how it would feel the first time. For me, it was a traumatic experience. I was housesitting for a family member and my boyfriend came over. I was a virgin, and he wasn’t much more experienced than I was.
All I remember was the pain and thinking why is sex such a big deal? It doesn’t even feel good. That was then. Of course, after that experience, you have other sexual experiences. You grow and learn what you like and don’t like. [Read: The dirty truth about losing your virginity no one told you]
The 7 sex positions for beginners that you need to know
If you’re about to lose your virginity and you’re nervous, I get it. Trust me, your first time isn’t going to be a mind-blowing experience, you may fall asleep from boredom. But, don’t fold your cards and quit just yet. It gets better, trust me.
What really helps is an idea of some of the sex positions for beginners that just work better than the others. Don’t try to recreate some Kama Sutra pose, just keep it simple. In this case, the simpler, the better.
#1 Missionary. Who doesn’t love missionary? Regardless if you’re a beginner or seasoned in sex, the missionary is a favorite for everyone. It’s intimate, it’s easy, thus, making it perfect for beginners. The part that many people love about the missionary position is that you can look at each other face-to-face. This actually works to alleviate performance anxiety because in a way, you bond through eye contact.
For this position, the girl lays on her back with her legs bent at the knees, fanned open while her partner is on top, entering her. She leaves her legs as is or she can wrap them around the guy’s waist. The guy then thrusts up and down with different speeds and pressure. Though very few women orgasm via penetration, so don’t focus so much on that. You’re better off by stimulating the clitoris. [Read: How to spice up the most basic missionary sex position]
#2 Doggy style. You may think that doggy style is an advanced sex position, but it’s not. In reality, it’s really easy to do for both men and women. What does matter though is the intensity. The problem usually is the one performing gets a little too excited and applies too much pressure when thrusting. So, if you want to give doggy style a try if you’re the one performing, keep in mind the other person.
For doggy style, the woman goes on her knees and hands. Literally how you would look like if you were crawling on the ground. Now, you either stay in the position or drop your chest and head to the bed, leaving only your ass in the air. Either way is fine. Usually, women feel more pleasure with only their ass in the air. To find the right spot, raise or lower your ass accordingly. [Read: All the ways to make doggy style your favorite sex position]
#3 Edge of the bed. There’s something really sexy about being pulled to the edge of the bed and fucked. Now, this can be a little tricky if you’re not the right height for the bed. However, that can easily be solved with pillows under the woman’s hips or the guy can kneel. You’ll figure which one works best.
To do this position, the woman lays on the edge of the bed, having her legs hanging off. Then, the guy grabs her legs, placing himself in between them, entering her. Then, it’s all in his hands. He thrusts away till the sun shines. For guys, you’ll be able to support yourself by holding her thighs or ankles.
#4 Girl on top. Now, honestly, it took me a year to figure out how to do this. My friends would tell me, “It’s like riding a horse,” which is helpful information if I had ridden a horse before. So, my nerves took the best of me, and I avoided this position. But once you get the hang of it, you’ll never want to stop riding your man. So, how do you do this position? Lemme tell ya.
The guy lays on his back. The woman crawls on top of him, straddling him. Yes, like you ride a horse, whatever that means. Take his penis with your hand and slowly lower yourself onto it. Do it slowly. I know you’re horny, but it could sting a bit. Then, you either move up and down or back and forth. I suggest mixing it up a bit with the techniques. I wouldn’t recommend starting in this position, as you need to be wet for this one. [Read: 18 girl on top tips to make sex sexier]
#5 The spoon. Everyone love spooning, but this time, it’s a little different. So, we all know the traditional spooning position when you lay on your side and your partner lays on their side behind you, right? Now, this time, you’re not going to be in your PJs, you’re going to be naked.
If you’re a woman, slightly lift your top leg so your partner has enough room to enter you. Your partner controls the pressure and thrusts by holding your breasts, waist, hair, or neck. For women, there is a higher chance for G-spot stimulation while in the spoon position. [Read: 15 ways to make spooning sex better than any other position]
#6 Face-to-face. If you want intimacy, this is one of the sex positions for beginners that works like a charm. It’s especially great if you’re nervous about sex, which at one point, we all were, though no one told me about this position. You’ll be able to relax and become comfortable with your partner while facing them.
So, to get into this position, you’ll want to both lay on your sides facing each other. If you’re a woman, move up slightly higher than your partner, making your hips above his. Then, wrap your top leg around his which gives him the space to enter inside of you. [Read: Dry humping and the virgin’s guide to orgasms]
#7 Face down. Okay, I admit, this isn’t the most intimate one when you think about it right away, but when you try it, you’ll actually see how romantic it is.
For women, you lay on the bed face down. The guy is going to come from behind and enter you. Now, the romantic part is when you have your head to the side and they lean in to kiss you or brush your hair out of your face. See, it’s the little things that count in life.[Read: 10 intimate sex positions to feel the romance in the bedroom]
Sex doesn’t have to be as complicated as we make it look. At the end of the day, it’s really quite simple. You just need to know the right sex positions for beginners, and you’re good to go.