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We tend to focus on how to make people fall in love, but do you know how to make someone fall OUT of love with you? Sometimes, it’s the harder of the two!
Making someone fall in love with you? Tricky, but doable. Learning how to make someone fall out of love with you? Brutal. Painful. But doable, in a couple of steps.
Love is a strange thing.
One minute you’re all happy and loved up, you adore spending time with a specific person and you’re thinking about the future and what it might look like together. It’s a wonderful feeling, right?
But, it doesn’t always last.
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but the reason that love feels so amazing is because it’s actually rare.
A lot of the time, love is actually infatuation, lust, or it’s simply a passing feeling that drifts away in the wind. So, when love comes and stays, when it sticks around and grows, it’s something that words can’t describe. The problem? It doesn’t always last.[Read: How to recognize true love when you see it]
There are many different reasons why people fall in love, but there are probably more reasons why someone falls out of love.
The human race is fickle, right?
It’s likely that you’ve spent time in the past trying to get someone to fall in love with you, but what if you’ve found yourself in a situation where you need to get someone to fall out of love with you? It happens, and it happens more often than you might think!
What it takes to make someone fall out of love with you
Learning how to make someone fall out of love with you is actually about two different routes – you can either be honest, or you can be an asshole. It depends on how quickly you want the results to stick and how decent you are as a person. [Read: The painfree break up conversation template you can use to break up with anyone]
If you ask me, I think the honest route is the best one, but it’s probably the least effective. If you’re honest with someone, if you tell them that you don’t want to be with them anymore, that you don’t love them and that you want them to move on to someone else, they’re probably going to appreciate your honesty in some ways and that could make them hang on even longer.
However, if you go down the asshole route, if you act in a way which certainly ticks the box of how to make someone fall out of love with you, you’ll probably get what you want far faster. The downside? They’re going to probably hate you and they might tell other people about what an asshole you were. Word gets around people, and it could damage your reputation. [Read: Why do people hate me? 15 reasons why some people are so hated]
However, I have to admit that if you want someone to forget about you and move on, it’s time to unleash your less-than-pleasant side.
How to make someone fall out of love with you in two pretty easy ways
I don’t endorse this, but I do want to help you. So, let’s look at how to make someone fall out of love with you pretty quickly indeed.
#1 Don’t return their calls and don’t spend much time with them. If you start to become distant, the person who you’re with is probably going to wonder why. Expect many calls, and they might even turn up at your door, but you need to focus on consistency here. If you continue with your routine of not returning calls, not answering them and not spending time, they’re eventually going to get bored and move on. Harsh? Yes, Effective? Yes. [Read: Ghosting someone? 12 steps to disappear clean and get away quickly]
The reason this method works is because they’re going to question where you are and why your attention isn’t on them when it was before. They might start to think that you’re seeing someone else and you can expect them to be snooping on your social media, trying to find answers and clues.
Now, I would rather you actually sat down with them and explained, but I’ll also acknowledge that method isn’t going to give you fast results.
Again, if you want to be harsh here, you need to rip off the Band-Aid, and that means cutting contact pretty quickly and without an explanation. Nobody is going to stand for that type of behavior for too long, so after a short while you’ll notice that they stop calling you too. [Read: Like ghosting people? Prepare yourself for these scary consequences]
#2 Leave their messages on read. This one is even harsher, but it’s effective once more. If you want to know how to make someone fall out of love with you, you need to leave their messages on read and don’t reply. It’s upsetting and it’s horrible, but it’s going to make them realize that they don’t need you and they deserve better. If you’re acting this way, in all honestly, they do deserve better, but from your point of view, it gets the job done.
That means when they send you a message on an app which allows them to see that you’ve read something, you leave it there and you deliberately open the message so they can see that tick.
You’ll no doubt have been on the receiving end of this type of behavior in the past and you’ll know what it feels like – you wonder why they’re not replying and you start to go over and over in your mind what you could have done to make them stop talking to you. [Read: Being left on read – What it really means when someone doesn’t text back]
As with the last point, they’re going to pretty quickly stop sending you messages after a while, because they’ll become annoyed and upset at your behavior.
Why do these methods work?
They work because they show the other person a side of you that they’re not going to like at all. Sure, we all have a dark side and we all have traits that aren’t particularly positive. But when you’re in love with someone you tend to look past them and try and focus on the good instead.
When learning how to make someone fall out of love with you, you need to focus on those negative traits and expand on them, making it impossible for the other person to look past them. When you do this, your good points fade into the background and the bad points come to the surface. When this happens, it’s pretty hard to stay in love with someone for too long afterwards.
Sure, they might hang on for a while, trying to remind themselves of your good points. But after a while, they’ll shrug their shoulders, admit defeat and probably move on to someone who loves them the same way back. [Read: Why being ghosted and ignored hurts so much]
Is there a more gentle and friendly way to handle this type of situation? I’d love to say ‘yes’, but any gentle method will involve sitting down and doing the ‘it’s not you, it’s me’ chat, which might cause them to think of you in a better and more positive way. In that case, their feelings might linger.
I’ll give you credit for one thing – you want to learn how to make someone fall out of love with you because you want them to move on and not hang around waiting for you when you don’t feel the same. That’s credible in some ways. You could have kept them hanging on, but you haven’t and that’s positive. [Read: Why you shouldn’t ghost someone and 5 reasons when it’s okay to do it]
However, there is no particular kind way to go about this if you want fast results. You should probably expect to feel a little rubbish about yourself for a short while afterwards, because treating someone in this way is never pleasant.
Love is a painful and heart-wrenching subject, and sometimes we have to push someone away in order to allow them to be free without us.[Read: 25 must-know tips to end a relationship without making it messy]
Learning how to make someone fall out of love with you isn’t easy and it’s going to mean you need to bring out your negative side and perhaps hurt someone you don’t really want to hurt.