Stop Wasting Time: 15 Signs She’s Not Interested in a Second Date

If you want a second date, it takes two people to make that decision. Though you may be interested, read the signs she’s not interested in a second date.

An important dating tool is knowing the signs she’s not interested in a second date. It’s important you figure out if she wants to go on a second date or not. There’s no point continuing to speak with someone who isn’t even interested in seeing you again. Why waste your time?

The weirdo in me loved going on first dates because I enjoyed seeing the other person full of nerves and awkwardness. It helped me settle my nerves knowing the other person was just as nervous. Plus, awkward situations were my thing.

My friends loved to hear the cringe-worthy situations I put myself through. Some of those dates ended up with a second or third date, but many of them ended right then and there.

[Read: The signs of a bad first date that reveal a total lack of chemistry]

15 signs she’s not interested in a second date

It can be tricky to know whether or not the other person wants to go on a second date. Maybe you thought the date went well, but for them, not so much, or vice versa. Either way, it’s fine; not everyone can fall in love with each other *imagine how crazy that world would be*.

Better to know now the signs she’s not interested in a second date.

#1 She tells you. This is honestly the best outcome you could ask for. Rather than fishing around, she just tells you straight up that she enjoyed her time but didn’t feel there was chemistry. You have all the information you wanted to know, and now you can move on with peace of mind. It may sting at first, but it’s better in the long-run. [Read: How to tell if there’s no chemistry and if you should stop trying]

#2 The conversation feels forced. It feels like you’re pulling teeth out of someone’s mouth when you’re trying to talk to her. She gives short answers without asking you any questions.

You’d have a better time talking to yourself, which is almost what you’re doing. If you need to force the conversation, it’s clear she’s not interested.

#3 Her laugh is forced. You can spot a fake laugh one mile away; it’s not that hard to tell when someone is acting fake. If she’s not having a good time, she’ll fake laugh herself to the end of the date so she can just go home. If her eyes aren’t matching her smile, well, then it’s not genuine. [Read: Are you boring her? 20 signs she’s clearly annoyed by you]

#4 It was a short date. One key sign that the date went well is how long the date ended up being. If it was a long date and you were laughing and constantly talking, that’s a good sign of connection. But if the date ended after one drink or she suddenly had a reason to leave, well, you now know that this is one of the clear signs she’s not interested in a second date.

#5 She was on her phone most of the date. Oh, well, if she spent most of her time looking at her phone, you know that’s not a good sign. Someone who likes you will keep their own phone hidden away, focusing solely on the date. If they’re on their phone and not engaging with you, then they’re simply rude and uninterested in your company. [Read: 15 signs of a bad first date to know if she doesn’t want to meet you again]

#6 You physically touched her, and she rejects it. Listen, on a first date; you shouldn’t be touching her at all. This is the date where you’re getting to know her, so keep your hands to yourself. But if you did try to put your arm around her or hold her hand and she rejected it, well, that’s not a good sign for you. Keep your hands to yourself.

#7 She’s asking all the questions. You may think this means she’s into you, but this is also a tactic to keep the conversation going without having to invest herself in it. She tells you very little about herself, and asks you endless questions, making you think the conversation is going well. But it’s really just one-sided. 

#8 She talked about her ex… a lot. You may lightly touch upon your exes *even though I strongly suggest not to on a first date*, but she decided to keep going with it. Half the date ended up being about her past relationship, and if anything, that shows you she hasn’t moved on yet. She’s not interested in dating someone; she’s looking for a rebound. [Read: 14 signs you’re the rebound guy she’s using to get over her ex]

#9 She asked to split the bill. This is a little bit of a tricky one. Some women really do feel more comfortable splitting the bill, whether they like the guy or not. But then some women ask to split the bill to remove any expectations and give their date the “this is only going to be a friendship” hint.

If this sign is matched with others on this list, the odds are she’s not interested in a second date. [Read: 10 little things that are sure to turn your date off] 

#10 You texted her after and her replies are weak. When you text her after the first date, she wasn’t as talkative. Her answers are one-worded, she takes hours to reply; these are not positive signs of someone interested in seeing you again. If she’s not engaging over text, then she’s not interested. 

#11 There’s a lack of eye contact. But not from your side, you’re giving eye contact. She’s not giving you sustained eye contact; instead, her eyes are always looking away from you. This doesn’t mean she’s shy. It’s a sign that she doesn’t feel there’s a connection between you.

#12  She just doesn’t care. At this point, if you’re noticing she simply doesn’t have any manners or common courtesy towards other people, why are you still sitting there? Go home! If she’s stopped engaging, has no filter when she talks, and looks like she doesn’t care, she’s not interested. Don’t try to impress her, get up, and leave.

#13 She needs to “check her schedule” for the next date. If there’s one thing I know, if a girl likes you, she knows exactly when she has time to see you again. If she’s using the old, “I need to get back to you,” after you ask her for a second date, there’s not going to be a second date. [Read: 14 charming moves to impress any girl on the first date]

#14 She ghosted you. Now, I can’t stand it when someone ghosts a person who doesn’t deserve to be ghosted. If you were creepy and forcing yourself on her, of course, she’s going to ghost you, and it’s perfectly acceptable. But, if you had a good date and she ghosts you without saying she’s not interested, that’s not nice. [Read: What to do if you’ve been ghosted after the first date]

#15 She never mentioned seeing you again. At the end of the date, she never brought up seeing you again. It was more like a, “well, okay, I’m going to go now. Bye!” And that was it. If she was really interested, she would have suggested texting each other or seeing one another again. But there was radio silence on her end, and now you know why.

[Read: How to impress a girl on the first date and guarantee a second one]

After reading the signs she’s not interested in a second date, what do you think? If you find that she’s not really interested, don’t worry, there are other fish in the sea.