You may be freaking out thinking he wants to break up. Maybe it’s all in your head, and you need to look at the signs he doesn’t want to break up with you.
Usually, you’re trying to figure out if he wants to break up with you, but this time, we’re looking at the signs he doesn’t want to break up with you.
Maybe your relationship is going through a rough patch or maybe you’re insecure, but not everyone just wants to call it quits. So, it’s time we sorted this all out, so that you can quit this agony and work through your anxiety and trust issues.
The clearest signs he doesn’t want to break up with you
When I got into a relationship, I would immediately think about when and why they’d break up with me. Eventually, they would break up with me. Mostly because I was terrified of being dumped. Weird how that works out, right? But that’s all due to my insecurities and trust issues. [Read: How to get over trust issues in your relationship]
It wouldn’t matter if they really liked me or not, because in my head it was going to end. And they were going to end it. But here’s the thing, not everyone you date wants to break up with you. Sometimes, it’s just all in your head. Maybe he doesn’t want to throw the towel in.
#1 He tells you. Maybe you asked him whether or not he wants to dump you and he’s told you time and time again, he doesn’t want to. Now, of course, this could be a complete lie and maybe he did have moments of doubt, but who doesn’t?
However, if he tells you that he wants to be with you and isn’t interested in ending his relationship with you, he’s probably telling you the truth. [Read: 25 signs and qualities that make a really good boyfriend]
#2 He argues with you. This may sound odd. But, if he’s still arguing with you, he doesn’t want to break up with you. Couples who stop arguing have given up. It’s as simple as that. If a couple still argues constructively, it shows that he’s choosing to fix the problem. The minute he stops arguing with you and tunes you out, it just shows that he’s over it. [Read: How to fight fair in a relationship and grow closer]
#3 He listens to you when you speak. Listen, if someone doesn’t like you, they’re not going to waste their precious time listening to you speak. But your boyfriend still invests the time in genuinely listening to you when you’re talking.
He’s not zoning out, waiting for you to end the topic. No, he’s in the conversation. If he didn’t want to be with you, he would have turned the TV on while you were talking and just reply with “yeah” and “okay.”
#4 He tries to work through the problems. He could just agree with everything you’re suggesting and still do nothing. Now that shows he’s not really willing to fix the problems you are experiencing. But, if he isn’t interested in breaking up with you, he’ll find solutions for the relationship. Whether it’s couples counseling or date nights, he’ll figure out ways to bring you closer together. [Read: 15 signs he wants to break up but is too afraid to say so]
#5 You two have sex. When you want to end the relationship, the last thing you want to do is have sex with that person. You don’t want to be with them anymore. Sleeping with them is much harder than you would think.
You feel bad. And you feel like you’re using them, especially when you’re about to end it. But if you are still having regular and passionate sex, for him, he’s not considering breaking up with you. [Read: 12 real reasons couples drift apart over time]
#6 He makes big changes. The big issue in the relationship is that he smokes, for example. Now, he could just tell you to piss off and end the relationship, but instead, he tries to quit smoking.
He knows that you’re more valuable to him than a pack of cigarettes. See, if he doesn’t want to break up with you, he’ll focus on changing his behavior in order to save the relationship. Now, this is a great sign that he loves you but don’t take this for granted, you should make changes as well.
#7 He will still do anything for you. You want to go watch ballet, he cancels his hockey game and goes with you. If he didn’t want to be with you, he wouldn’t be doing these gestures to make you happy. Instead, he’d be distancing himself and refusing to do things that would cause him inconvenience. But he’s still there to support everything and anything you want to do.
#8 He doesn’t keep his distance. If someone wants to dump you, you’re going to notice them pull away from you. He’ll stop seeing you as often. And he comes up with excuses to bail out of plans. Eventually, you see him less and less.
Now, this is a huge sign that he wants to cut things off but doesn’t know how to. If that’s the case, end things yourself. It’ll be easier for both of you. But if he’s still hanging out with you, as usual, there’s nothing to worry about. [Read: 16 clear signs you should break up with your boyfriend]
#9 He doesn’t act cold. If someone wants to break up with you, you’ll notice their behavior changes. They’re not hugging you like they used to. They’re not holding your hand in public or giving you random kisses. They’re cold, ice cold. But your boyfriend is still doing everything normal. He’s hugging you, kissing you, giving you compliments. He’s not acting cold. [Read: What makes a boyfriend perfect?]
#10 He brings you around his family and friends. Listen, if a guy wants to dump you, he’ll slowly stop taking you to his parents’ house or inviting you over to chill with his friends. He doesn’t want his family to experience any awkwardness or sad goodbyes. But your boyfriend still brings you over to his parents and everyone acts normal around you.
If he’s showing most of the signs he doesn’t want to break up with you that you see on this list, he may not be ready to throw the towel in just yet. Stop worrying, and focus on the positive side of your romance instead!