How to Text a Girl You Just Met and Make Sure You Don’t Screw Up

You had the courage to ask for her number, and she gave it. Now, all you do is text her. Sounds easy, right? Wrong. Here’s how to text a girl you just met.

No one said dating was easy. In my opinion, it’s a lot of game playing and mind reading. And none of us are mind readers. Now, you don’t need to play games when learning how to text a girl you just met. In fact, I strongly encourage you not to. But there are things you can say or do that’ll catch her attention and keep her interested long enough until you get to take her out.

If you had a great interaction before getting her number, you already did the hard part of setting up the vibe between you. So, now that you have her number, text her and make the next step.

How to text a girl you just met

Last week, my brother asked a girl out. She gave him her number, which was a great sign she was interested in him. They arranged a time and place to meet, but then she canceled last minute and never spoke to him again. What happened? Who knows, it could be anything. Maybe she realized she wasn’t interested, maybe she met someone else, or maybe she was too lazy to leave her house that day.

[Read: This is how to avoid being stood up on a date]

The point is he didn’t get the first date he was waiting for. These things happen to the best of us. It’s a part of the dating world. But with the right text, you can keep her interested and excited about the first date.

You made it this far, keep going.

#1 Think about the encounter. Many guys make the mistake of thinking the more numbers they get, the better. But that’s not the case. Sure, your chances of a first date are higher, but that doesn’t mean the quality of a person is higher.

You want to focus on having a genuine encounter with a girl. That way, when it comes to texting her, you’re not wasting your time, and you’re enjoying the experience. [Read: The complete guide to texting before a first date – the right way]

#2 Get the number during the peak of the conversation. The best thing you can do is get her number during the peak of your conversation with her. Don’t wait until the end to ask for her number. The peak of your encounter is when she’s feeling most connected to you and interested in seeing you again.

#3 You don’t need to wait to text her. There’s this thought guys need to wait several hours or three days until they can text the girl they just met. Why would you wait? You have no idea who else is chasing after her. You got her number, so use it. The guys who get what they want are the ones who make a move. Sure, wait an hour or so, but no longer than that. [Read: How to subtly flirt with a girl: The art of subtle seduction]

#4 Avoid late-night texts. If you’re going to text her, don’t do it at night. If you want to take her on a date, show her you’re not interested in a hump-and-dump. Anything after 9 pm and it looks like a booty call. Now, if that’s what you both are looking for, then that’s different. But if you really like her, show respect.

#5 Be your confident self. Listen, you had the courage to ask her for her number, so the hard part is over. Now, it’s about maintaining the connection until you see her again. If you’re wondering how to text a girl you just met, just be yourself. Don’t try to act like a cool or sly guy. Be yourself, that way, when she meets you in person, she feels like she’s talking to the same person she was texting with.

#6 Keep it light and flirty. Yeah, I know about Trump and all the travesties going on in the world. And you know what, so does she. Keep the conversation light and flirty. You can save the political rant for a later date. Right now, your goal is to keep the connection alive and set up the first date. [Read: 15 rules to impress a girl while texting her]

#7 Use respectful language. You may think jokingly calling her a bitch would be a good idea, but that’s not. It’s a horrible idea. Avoid any jokes that you think may offend her until you know her personality. As of now, you have no idea what she’s like. So, keep the conversation clean and tasteful.

#8 Don’t think about whether or not she’s into you. I know it’s easier said than done, but when you text her, avoid thinking about what’s on her mind. Focus on the conversation and be present. If you start thinking about whether she likes you or not, you’ll psych yourself out and make the conversation uncomfortable. [Read: How to text smoothly and impress girls while texting them]

#9 Keep the texts short. You don’t need to send an essay to her–you’re not Shakespeare. Keep your conversations short and sweet. A couple of sentences are enough, anything longer, and it’s too much too soon. It’ll keep the conversation flowing. [Read: 40 questions to ask your crush and subtly flirt with them]

#10 Play it safe. How you text her will depend on how your interaction was. If you spoke for hours and became comfortable around each other, then you can use information from the previous conversation to start the text. But if you don’t know her well, play it safe. Saying, “Hey, what are you up to?” or “How are you feeling this morning?” is friendly and simple. 

#11 Use your knowledge about her. If you had a conversation before, then you have some basic information on her. When texting her, use it! If she just had an exam, send her a text saying, “Hi Anna, how was your exam? Survived?” That’ll start off the conversation and show her you remember the small details she told you about herself.

#12 Remember why you’re texting her. While you’re wondering how to text a girl you just met, remind yourself why you’re doing it. What’s the goal of you texting her? Do you just want her to be your penpal, or do you want to meet her? It’s easy to get sucked into endless texting, spending days on the phone before even making a move. Don’t do that. Keep your goal in mind when talking to her.

#13 Give her time to respond. People are busy even though we like to think they’re glued to their phones 24/7. She may not reply right away, but that doesn’t mean it’s over. Give her some time to reply. She may be working, with her family, or sleeping. If she’s into you, she’ll reply. If not, expect no answer or a one or two-worded reply several hours later. [Read: 20 flirty ways to text your crush and get them interested in you]

#14 Don’t double text her. If she doesn’t text you back, don’t send her another text. She eventually will see your message. Keep your dignity and refrain from doing it. I know it’s hard, but if you send another text, you’ll look desperate, and you don’t want that to happen. If she replies, great; if not, move on.

[Read: Thinking of double texting your crush? Use these basic rules to keep your cool]

You just met her, and now you need to make a move before you lose your chance. Follow these steps for how to text a girl you just met, and you’ll land the first date.