How to Tell When a Man Is Emotionally Attached and Connected to You

It’s difficult to know when a man has caught feelings. If you’re wondering how to tell when a man is emotionally attached to you, look no further!

Most men don’t shout from the rooftops about their feelings. If you’re eager for your man to do the same as Tom Cruise, jumping up and down on Oprah’s sofa and declaring his love, you might be in for a long wait. It takes a little detective work and knowing the signs of how to tell when a man is emotionally attached to get your answer.

Sorry to break it to you, but it’s unlikely he’s going to come right out and tell you for a good while after he’s actually reached that magic point.

Ah, the confusion!

If you’re like me, you’ll want to know where you stand at all times. Some call it over-eager. I like to call it avoiding time wasting. [Read: 25 signs and traits that make a guy a really great boyfriend]

Whichever side of the argument you’re on, knowing the signs of a man who’s caught feelings can certainly take a lot of the confusion out of an otherwise quite difficult situation. “Does he like me? Am I imagining it? Does he just want sex?” Ah, the questions that pop up when you start seeing a guy!

How to tell when a man is emotionally attached to you

If you’re keen to know if you’re wasting your time or not, here are 10 signs on how to tell when a man is emotionally attached.

#1 He wants to spend a lot of time with you. Whenever he has spare time, does he spend it with you? You have a key sign right there! He could be out with his friends, enjoying his hobbies, watching whatever he watches on the TV, but he spends it with you instead. He’s not having his arm twisted around his back to do this. He chose to. Does that tell you something? He is catching feelings!

I know what you’re thinking. Maybe he does it for sex. Well, okay, there’s a possibility. Test this theory out a little, bypass the sex until a slightly later date. If he still sticks around, then you have an emotionally attached guy right there. [Read: How long should you wait before sex?]

#2 He texts or calls, just because. No man texts you first on a regular basis, or even calls, for a reason other than he wants to. Regular random texts basically equate to “I’m thinking about you.” If he’s always the one making contact first, doesn’t that make you feel good?

Of course, it’s not a good idea to make him do this all the time. But if you notice “just because” texts and calls, that’s a how to tell when man is emotionally attached tick point!

#3 He tries to impress. A guy doesn’t have to buy lavish gifts to make a point. If he’s going a little over what you would normally expect, e.g. he might show up at your door with your favorite chocolate bar, then that’s a good sign in your direction. Nobody does things for no reason. As with most of these points, if he’s doing these things then he’s trying to impress you. We only try and impress the people we care about!

When a man is emotionally attached, he makes a big effort most of the time. He thinks about your favorite things and sends small gifts and thoughtful messages your way. You’ve found a good one! [Read: The signs he is emotionally connected to you and wants to be the one]

#4 You catch him looking at you with a faraway expression. If you’ve ever caught your guy looking at you with a faraway wonder in his eye, he isn’t thinking about something else. He’s thinking about you! He looks at you in wonder and thinks how lucky he is.

We only stare at things in wonder when we care. It’s a sign of someone who has caught feelings and can’t believe how lucky he is to be in your life.

#5 He does his best to never let you down. No man is perfect. Neither is any woman. Sometimes we hurt the ones we love without realizing it with selfish things. We’re all human. In this case, learning how to tell when a man is emotionally attached can be done by examining how many times he has done his best for you.

If he puts you first as much as he can, apologizes when he’s wrong or can’t make something, and he’s genuine in all of the above then believe it or not, he’s a good guy just doing his best to never let you down. [Read: 25 signs he really loves you even if he doesn’t say it out loud]

#6 He openly shows you off to his family and close friends. Number one rule! If a guy introduces you to his family and close circle of friends, he sees you as an important part of his life. He will not introduce you to the people integral in his life, unless he cares about you. Are you wondering how to tell when a man is emotionally attached? When he takes you home to meet the family or his best friends!

#7 He cares about what you think. While he will probably canvas opinions from friends and family, he will involve you in any decision making by asking what you think. This shows you his vulnerable side. He wants to know what you think and gain your approval on whatever the issue is.

Do your best to be open and honest but not too blunt or hurt his feelings. Tell him the truth by all means, but do it in a way which he can handle. By opening up to you in this way, he’s taking a huge gamble. Most men don’t find opening up that easy to do. [Read: How to get him to really open up so you both can connect]

#8 He is himself around you. Most guys put on an act around people they like. But if he’s simply being himself, it means he’s comfortable enough to let his guard down. If he’s his goofy, off duty, normal self. It’s a wonderful feeling to know that someone is comfortable enough to be who they are in your company. You should be doing the same back for him.

This is the start of a genuine relationship in this case. One which mutually benefits you both.

#9 He casually mentions the future. If he talks about any point in time further than the weekend or a fortnight, that means he sees you in his life in the future. He’s got feelings for you!

Men don’t plan ahead in general, so if he’s talking about vacations, meeting friends, going somewhere and he’s not doing it in a whimsical “one day” kind of way, that’s a great sign. If he talks about your kids one day, or where you’re going to live in the future, well, you’ve got yourself a major future guy! [Read: 16 big signs he’s not serious and you’re just his maybe gal]

#10 He tells you his secrets. On the whole, men don’t usually find it easy to open up and talk about their secrets and fears. This isn’t the case for all men, of course. Generally speaking, if a guy shares about his past experiences, fears, and other deep details about himself, that’s a clear sign of feelings. He trusts and feels comfortable with you.

[Read: The 15 signs he’s ready for a relationship with you]

Learning how to tell when a man is emotionally attached can be difficult at face value. When you break it down and look at the times he is vulnerable with you and openly shows his affection, you’ll get a clear picture of how he really feels.