Men want to be men, and women want to be with “a man.” But what…
You want your partner to whisper in your ear, “You’re the best kisser I ever had.” Well, follow these tips and learn how to be good at making out.
Everyone wants to be considered an amazing kisser. But we all start from the same place, and that’s not knowing how to kiss at all. I remember when my very first boyfriend kissed me, I freaked out. It took me months to get comfortable with the idea of making out. I was so scared to give it a try and really learn how to be good at making out.
I felt completely helpless. But with time and a lot of patience from my partner, I learned how to kiss. A lot of it, for me, at least, was fear. Fear was stopping me from learning and becoming comfortable with my partner.
How to be good at making out
I think fear inhibits many people. But it’s important to know that you just need to get over your initial anxiety and keep going. With time, you’ll learn how to read your partner and what works for both of you.[Read: How to French kiss with important dos and don’ts to follow]
These tips will help you step up your kissing game and better listen to your partner. Once you two understand each other, the kissing will only get better from there. So, if you want to be good at making out, try these tips next time… Remember, practice makes perfect.
#1 Have the right breath. I’m a known lover of garlic and onion. The only problem is no one else like onions and garlic, especially when breathing it in. So, don’t make the same mistakes I did when I was younger. Use some mouthwash, pop in a mint, it’s a little effort but can change someone’s experience for the better. [Read: 15 secrets to make your first kiss really memorable]
#2 Moisturizer those lips. If you want to be known as a good kisser, then make sure your lips are nice and smooth. There’s nothing worse than kissing someone with chapped lips.
Go to the store, buy some chapstick, and lather it on. Trust me; it’ll be the best thing you ever bought. And this tip isn’t only for women. Men, you should moisturizer your lips too.
#3 Follow your partner’s movements. If you’re not used to making out with someone, and you’re unsure of what to do with your hands, follow your partner. This works very well. If they squeeze your arm, squeeze their arm back. This can help you develop more confidence and give you ideas of what you can do. [Read: 12 foolproof kissing tips for a perfectly sexy smooch]
#4 Start without tongue. No one likes a tongue being shoved into their mouth right away. If you want to be a great kisser, start your make-out session without tongue. Share a couple of no-tongue kisses to get a handle of your partner’s lip and the rhythm you two fall into. Then, slowly get into it and lightly touch your partner’s tongue with your own.
#5 Don’t rush. There’s no need to rush; this isn’t a race. Take your time and enjoy the moment. You can make out for as long as you’d like and go with the natural rhythm. Not every makeout session needs to end with sex. You decide when the makeout session comes to an end or if it should progress. [Read: How to make out and all the little ways to make it really sexy]
#6 Find the natural rhythm. When you’re making out with someone, it may feel like they’re going a bit too fast or too slow. It’s not a big deal; you are learning about each other and what you like when kissing. Find the natural rhythm that works for both of you.
If they’re kissing too fast, slow them down with a couple of passionate and tender kisses, this will help them slow down a bit and go into a rhythm that works for both of you. [Read: How to kiss passionately and romantically]
#7 Switch up your moves. You don’t need to always be holding your partner’s head or having your hand on their thigh. It’s a good idea that when you are making out, you switch up your movements. Run your hand through their hand, squeeze their arm, hug them. If you are feeling like taking it one step further, rub your hand over their genitals. [Read: How to touch a guy – 17 subtle moves to make him lose his mind]
#8 Take a break from the mouth. Making out isn’t just about kissing your partner on the lips. You can take a breath from kissing their mouth and venture to other areas of their body like their neck, earlobes, chest, cheeks, and chin. This way, you add a little spice to things, and you explore their erogenous zones.
#9 Increase intensity. You don’t need to keep it at the same pace the entire time. If you’re getting aroused, you can let your partner know by intensifying the kissing, whether the intensity comes through pressure or speed. Your partner will pick up on signs and will get the hint you want more.
#10 You can talk during the makeout session. If there’s something you liked, you can tell your partner that during the makeout session. Pull back for a moment or whisper in their ear what you liked. If they’re listening, they’ll incorporate it more into the makeout season. [Read: How to dirty talk and turn your lover on like no one else]
#11 If you are going to bite, be gentle. I remember biting my boyfriend during a makeout session, and it was a little too hard. If it’s too hard, it kills the moment. So, start off with a gentle bite. Your partner may like it a little more rough, but they’ll let you know they want you to bite them harder. [Read: The four relationship bases of making out and the must know metaphors]
#12 Get closer. Maybe you still have some space between you, but if you’re in a passionate makeout session, there shouldn’t be any space. Once you’re deep into kissing, eliminate the space between you two. Not only will it bring you closer; it’ll make the kissing even hotter.
#13 Give feedback. There may be some things your partner does that you’re not a fan of. But that doesn’t mean you need to say they’re a bad kisser or anything. You can give them constructive feedback that doesn’t destroy their self-esteem.
If you want to know how to be good at making out, learn to make your partner feel good about the experience without hurting their morale. But if you must change something, say things like, “Next time, we should try more/less of…” or “Is it okay if we do…” [Read: How to lose your imperfect pucker and become an amazing kisser]
#14 And always make sure you ask for consent. These tips are given with the idea that consent has already been asked. But I want to remind you that you should always ask your partner for consent before making any move. You can ask if you can kiss them in a sexy way that still keeps the spark alive. Once you have that ‘yes’ then it’s all good.[Read: These signs of a lack of a respect in a relationship shouldn’t be ignored]
Don’t worry! When it comes to learning how to be good at making out, it takes time to understand the situation and what works for you and your partner. Just relax, go with the flow and make your moves slowly, until you feel at sync while making out.