You want to get their attention, but you don’t know how. You’re doing all the right things, but nothing is happening. Well, do you know how to be a tease?
I was a huge flirt. I loved teasing guys. It was so entertaining for me. Also, I liked seeing someone I had feelings for slowly share those feelings for me. In the beginning, I wasn’t very good at it. I was also a tomboy, so that had a lot to do with my lack of success of how to be a tease.
But with time, I realized that if I wanted to get a guy’s attention, I should learn how to be a tease. And once I found that out, it opened up many doors for me. Sometimes, the answer to a question isn’t so complex.
How to be a tease
Easier said than done. Whether you’re a guy or girl, it’s not always easy channeling our inner tease. You’re excited, you’re aroused, and now you need to tease them? That’s not always an easy thing to do.
There are a couple of things you can do to work on your inner tease. If you want to get someone’s attention, you’re going to need to follow these 13 steps below. If not, you’ll botch the entire plan, and no one wants that to happen.
So, let’s get started and help you become the tease you’ve always wanted to become. Learn how to be a tease… the right way.
#1 What do you want? Before you start teasing them, figure out what you want. Playing mind games isn’t cool. Don’t do anything until you understand what you’re looking for. Do you want something more sexual? Or are you just testing the waters and checking whether they’re into you? [Read: What’s your dating speed for now: Casual or serious]
#2 Get to know them. Before anything, you should have a decent idea of who they are as a person. That way, you can decide how you want to approach them. If not, it can get messy. Plus, if you like this person, you should know them. You don’t need to know them inside out, but don’t rush and skip this step.
#3 What’s their personality like? It’s important to understand their personality so you can decide on how you want to approach them. There’s no one-size-fits-all method when it comes to teasing someone. So, don’t rush into teasing them right away until you have a better idea of who they are. Some people don’t like being teased while others do. [Read: 20 revealing questions to help you get to know someone better]
#4 Be unattainable. Here’s the thing, if you want to be successful with teasing, you need to be unattainable. They need to know right from the beginning that you’re not someone who’s easy to get. So, don’t be that available. I know you want to be available for them, but you can’t be. People want what they can’t have.
#5 Work on your confidence. If you want to be a successful tease, then you’re going to need to be confident. When it comes to anything, confidence is key. You can say all the right things, but if you don’t own it, nothing will work.
#6 Be flirtatious. Without being flirtatious, this won’t go anywhere. Flirting is a necessity when it comes to getting someone’s sexual attention. Flirting builds up the sexual chemistry between two people. If you don’t have flirting, then you’re just friends. In other words, you need to flirt. [Read: 15 tips to flirt with a friend and tease them without being weird]
#7 Be playful. See, teasing isn’t about bullying this person. You’re supposed to be light and playful, creating a sexual and flirtatious atmosphere. You don’t want them to feel as if they’re being attacked. So, when you’re flirting with them, keep it light and easy.
#8 Know where the line is. Like I said before, teasing is supposed to be light and fun. You need to know where the line is. If not, your teasing can become hurtful to someone. Don’t demean or humiliate them. Stay away from any comments that may offend them. When it comes to teasing, be gentle. [Read: 13 ways to keep growing yourself into a kind human]
#9 Get a little physical. You shouldn’t body slam them against the wall… that’s not teasing. But you can lightly nudge them when you make a joke or touch their arm. Test the waters and see how they react. If they recoil or pull back, then ease up on the physical touching; they don’t like it.
#10 Create an emotional connection. Through flirting, you’ll be able to create sexual tension between you. But this also means there needs to be an emotional element. Yes, tease them and have a good time, but also work on having an engaging conversation. Work on opening up to them as well.
#11 Speak with your eyes. You’ve played hard to get, and you’ve flirted your face off. Now, it’s time to do some talking with your eyes. If you’re sitting across from them, don’t be shy to flash them a look. And then hold the gaze. Don’t just look away hastily. Take your time, be confident, and let them know what you want.
#12 Give them a kiss. If you want to. If you’re feeling it’s time to take it to the next level, then don’t be shy to give them a kiss. But the trick is, once you kiss them, pull back. They can’t get everything they want all at once! They need to work for it! [Read: 22 tips to master that perfect first kiss]
#13 Don’t sleep with them too quickly. You may want to jump them but don’t. If you want to be a professional tease, they need to know you’re not hungry for them. You need to be as cool as a cucumber. Take your time before you jump to this step – they need to work for this.
If you do it right, learning how to be a tease can be a lot of fun. If you want to ramp up the chemistry and flirting between you and the person you like, tease them.