13 Red Flags in Women that Make Your Girl Incompatible With You

Neither sex, men, nor women, are angels. We all have our flaws. If you’re a man on the dating scene, here are some red flags in women to look out for.

She looks perfect. She’s everything you wanted in a partner, but some things about her make you second-guess yourself. You’re picking up on some of the red flags in women to be aware of.

It happens to the best of us. And listen, we’re humans—we all have our flaws. You’re not going to find a picture-perfect woman who is flawless. Unless you choose to date a robot.

And you’re also flawed, so be realistic about what you want in a partner. If you’re looking for Barbie, you’re not going to find her.

[Read: These signs of disrespect in a relationship reveal a lack of love]

13 red flags in women that truly spell danger

That being said, there are some things you shouldn’t accept in a relationship. Welcome to the red flags. Of course, there will be some things she does that may annoy you, but they’re not harmful to you or your relationship. Like if she snorts when she laughs or always forgets where she puts her keys. Those aren’t things to worry about.

But if she’s rude to her family, never apologizes for her bad behavior, or belittles you on a daily basis, then this is something you need to take a look at. In other words, those are some red flags.

Not all flags are good ones.

#1 You don’t share the same values. Now this doesn’t make her a terrible person, but it definitely will lead to a dead end in your romance eventually. If you want to have a healthy and happy relationship, you should aim to find someone who shares similar values.

If you value family and want to have children one day, then look for a woman who wants those things. If she’s told you she doesn’t want kids, then you two aren’t on the same page. [Read: The signs she’s not emotionally ready to be in a relationship with you]

#2 She’s violent when upset. Maybe you had an argument. It’s not something unusual; every relationship has its moments. But instead of talking things out with you, she’ll hit you or throw things at you. You should talk to her about it and give her the chance to learn and grow out of this behavior. But if she continues to do this, this is incredibly unhealthy. 

#3 You have completely different lifestyles. Now, many people get together and have opposite lifestyles. And they make it work by compromising. But if you are both concrete with your lifestyles and aren’t interested in changing, then this isn’t going to work. If she doesn’t want to live a similar life as you, then there will be a constant struggle. [Read: Do opposites attract or do they push each other apart?]

#4 She just left a serious relationship. Regardless if it’s a man or woman, when it comes to fresh breakups, do not attempt to get into a relationship with them. She didn’t move on; it’s been one week. People need time to get over their relationships, and if you want it to be a genuine relationship, then give her space to emotionally process her breakup. [Read: Dating a girl on the rebound – How to date her and not get hurt]

#5 She says all her exes were jerks. This is equivalent to men saying all their exes were crazy. How could all of someone’s exes be either crazy or jerks? Maybe they were all jerks, so it should make you think why she goes for those types of men. This could also mean she doesn’t take responsibility for her actions and shifts blame to others.

#6 You’ve caught her lying. Honesty is a crucial factor in relationships. If you’ve caught her in a lie, this isn’t something you should overlook. Of course, we all say white lies, but even those are tricky. Naturally, if you’ve caught her in more than one lie, this will develop trust issues in your relationship. [Read: 15 ways a pathological liar hurts and confuses you with their lies]

#7 It’s her way or the highway. When going into a relationship with someone, you want to be with someone who can compromise for the good of the relationship. This also means you should be willing to compromise as well. If you are, that’s great. But if she only wants things to go her way, this is going to be a problem as the relationship becomes more serious.

#8 She’s disrespectful to her parents. Now, some parents can be difficult people and get on their kid’s nerves. But if she’s rude and disrespectful to her parents, the odds are that behavior is going to seep into your relationship. These people gave her life! They gave her love and support! How will she treat you then? [Read: 14 first date red flags that speak more than your date says]

#9 She quickly becomes obsessive. You just started seeing each other, but she’s already calling you a couple of times a day and checking up on where you are. This isn’t a good sign. At first, it may seem cute, but this shows that she has massive trust issues. If she’s showing obsessive behavior, that’s a red flag. [Read: The complete list of warning signs you have an obsessive girlfriend]

#10 She doesn’t take responsibility for her behavior. Maybe she was rude to a waiter or she overstepped herself with your friend. She could have apologized and learned from her mistakes, or she could deflect from the situation and place the blame on someone or something else. You want to look for a partner who can admit and own up for their wrongdoings.

#11 She’s unappreciative. You pick her up from work every day or cook dinner for her, and all these actions show you care and appreciate her. But appreciation is a two-way street. She doesn’t need to buy you something to say thank you, but just taking notice and acknowledging what you did goes a long way. [Read: 16 discreet signs you’re being taken for granted in your relationship]

#12 She’s already used the “L” word. It’s only been a couple of dates, and she’s throwing out the “L” word like it’s nothing. The word “love” isn’t something anyone should use lightly. If she’s telling you, she loves you; this is a red flag because we all know she doesn’t. [Read: What is love bombing and how to spot the manipulation early on]

#13 They make you feel bad about yourself. When you’re dating someone, they should make you feel like you’re on top of the world. Instead, they insult you and poke at your self-esteem. She doesn’t want to make you smile; she wants to feel superior.

[Read: These 15 types of bad girlfriends will make your life hell]

When dating, make sure you look out for these red flags in women. You don’t want to get yourself caught up in an unhealthy relationship, or with someone who’s totally wrong for you.